Day 6 AF 😊 . I actually bought a sign like this for 2 of my best friends. And they loved them and hung them in their kitchens. It seems so inappropriate now 🙈 Literally a sign hanging up letting our kids know we think it's ok to get SO drunk you can't remember the night before. 😥 And the bad parenting award goes to.....🏆 . . New blog post up (link in bio) ☝️ about the fear of telling friends about my not-drinking status. . . It's not easy when they are your very very best friends is it? It's not black and white and there's a load of emotional stuff on both sides all tangled up in it. . . Anyhoo - I'm looking forward to my first festival without alcohol this weekend and even more excited for an @ocadouk delivery tomorrow of lots of soft drinks and non-alcoholic bitters n shizzle!!! :) . . Be good & be kind 💕
When did we buy into the narrative that we have no choice but to numb ourselves when we’re challenged? Was it our first breakup and everyone’s immediate response was, “I’ll bring the wine” instead of asking how we’re doing? Or was it the jokes that say “therapy is expensive, wine is free!” NOW, I’m not gonna slap that beer out of your hand and make you go to therapy, since it’s not my place to diagnose nor preach to you. Honestly, I don’t lose sleep over people drinking; what I DO care about the saturated marketing/messaging and its effect on normalizing alcohol abuse. Because when the knee jerk reaction to a stressful day, or bad news, or being a wife/mom/woman in general is “let’s drink about it,” then we have to consider the darker message behind it: 𝗪𝐞 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐝𝐢𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐯𝐞𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐞𝐯𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐰𝐞 𝐜𝐚𝐧’𝐭 𝐝𝐨 𝐡𝐚𝐫𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐬 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐬𝐞𝐝𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐯𝐞𝐬. And that strips your agency away. When you take the power away from the “I need wine to get through this Wednesday!” narrative, you own your sh*t. You start to realize that, hey, maybe this thing that makes me feel like garbage afterwards and heightens my anxiety isn’t the best stress relief. Love yourself enough to give grace and space for handling the muck of life. You’re worth it.
I’d been putting off doing a photoshoot because I’ve gained weight over the last couple years and I was embarrassed. I didn’t want to spend my money having pictures taken when I felt so uncomfortable in my own body. . I haven’t had professional photos taken in 4 years. Last year when I had the chance, I opted out. It wasn’t until everyone else started getting their photos back from the retreat we were at, that I realized how much FOMO I had. . I realized I looked different from the photos I had taken 4 years ago, and it had nothing to do with having gained weight. . I have my purple dream hair now. I have my dream life. I’m a happier version of myself now. I’m proud of who I am… Why should I avoid having professional photos taken? . I caught myself right in the middle of a “I’ll do this when I lose weight…” trap. . The exact trap I talk to others about not getting stuck in. . I had these photos taken as an ode to who I’ve been, but even more, an ode to who I’m becoming. . They mark a space and time between a girl who was trapped inside herself, lost in everyone else's expectations and demands… and the woman I am today - Confident. Strong. A Survivor. A woman who has refused to give up on herself. . Whatever you’re putting off until you lose weight, or whatever your ‘until…’ is, do it now. . I love the photos I had taken in London, and while there are some I look at with harshness because the angle wasn’t flattering or my body isn’t quite shape I want it to be in… I know one day I will look at these with kinder eyes and I’ll be relieved and grateful for having them taken. . They’re a forever reminder of how resilient and powerful I’ve always been.
Following my post yesterday I am SO pleased to announce that I have recently accepted a second job as a part time writer for the LGBTQ+ charity @lgbtoutlife, focusing on content about alcohol and mental health. 🌈 As I’ve mentioned a few times over the past few months, I have been wanting to do something that helps the LGBTQ+ community and I am so pleased to have found it in this role. Being able to connect with people who are struggling with alcohol and or their mental health is something that is really important and of course very close to my heart, but especially focusing on the LGBTQ+ community means even more. 👬 I am so excited for what this relationship between myself and OutLife can bring to the table and even more excited about helping those of you who need it. 🏳️🌈 My very first article is in the link in my bio, please go and check it out! 👭 As ever if you want any advice or a chat about alcohol or mental health, slide on into the DM’s and I’ll get back to you ASAP. ❤️ All the rainbow love in the world, 🏳️🌈 Scott xxx