It probably comes as no surprise to you that raising two rambunctious boys results - almost daily - in wrestling matches of some sort. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Almost every night this week, my two boys wanted to “fight Daddy” — and, of course, they wanted to do this right before bedtime, which, in turn, just got them even more riled up. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ My oldest son had one of my arms pinned back while pretty much trying to choke me out, while my youngest charged (head first, of course) straight at me. Instinctively, I put my arm up to prevent a crushing head-butt. Of course, his face went smack into my elbow…bloody lips and nose ensued. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ He was fine. Within a minute he was back at it again. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ When a situation calls for it, self-defense is necessary to protect ourselves or the ones we love. And just like throwing my arm up to prevent my face from being crushed was instinctive, being prepared to defend others who are being abused and mistreated should also come instinctively. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I pray that I equip my boys with the understanding of the difference between self-defense and reacting to an offense. It is my hope that they will begin to understand how to respond appropriately as opposed to react in a vengeful manner. And it is also my prayer that they will learn to cooperate with others as far as it possible to do so. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Romans 12:18 tell us that, “If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all.” ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Jesus said during the Sermon on the Mount, “But I say to you, Do not resist the one who is evil. But if anyone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to him the other also” (Matthew 5:39). ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ It is my belief that Jesus is concerned with personal revenge, not self-defense. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ “Getting back” at someone puts our Lord’s honor at stake, not our own. .